Dating Advice in Your 40s, 50s and Beyond

It can be tough and intimidating to get out there and start dating again in your 40s, 50s, or after. For one thing, you worry about how you look and if you’ll attract someone; for another, you probably aren’t even sure of where to begin.

Some tips for jumping back into the dating game:

  1. Don’t split the check on a first date – it makes men look cheap if they ask to do it and makes women feel like the man thinks they aren’t worth it.
  2. Be wary of the newly divorced – some people can’t be alone and they often bring their baggage into the next relationship.
  3. Take some (tiny) risks – don’t let your insecurities get in the way. Look outside your “type” and date a little older or younger than you normally would.
  4. Enlist your friends – not only can they set you up with someone, they can talk you off the ledge if you’ve decided to “settle” in a relationship that isn’t great for you.
  5. Be honest in your priorities and in what matters the most to you.
  6. Get past hurts and relationships behind you before dating someone new.
  7. Invest a little effort in your appearance.
  8. Stick to your boundaries – if the person you are dating wants you to drop everything for them or pushes you to act in a way you wouldn’t normally, they aren’t honoring your wants and needs and they definitely are not the right one for you.

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Red Flag – Is She A Player (Or Maybe He Is)?

Is he stringing you along? Is she a player? Sometimes people send up red flags that are too subtle to see until it’s too late. For instance, if you ask to use his cell to make a phone call, does he suddenly come up with reasons why you can’t (so you can’t see who he’s been calling and texting)? She might be playing you if you ask her out but she is vague about committing to a date (for example: she always has a last minute change of plans or she always says she might have to work late that day, or that she’ll get back to you before accepting a date). If your gut is telling you there is something a little “off” about this person, you need to trust your instinct. All too often, we excuse the behavior of others and end up getting hurt.

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Sarcasm And What Men Wish Women Knew About It

Ever wonder what men wish women knew? A huge pet peeve is sarcasm – men hate sarcasm when it references them! No one likes jokes that are made at their expense and, even though he may be laughing along with everyone else, deep down inside he’s not happy to be the subject of teasing. No one would! Like everyone, when a joke is made at their expense, men shut down. Women: know the difference between being funny and being insulting and don’t point out his flaws to others, even in a joking way.

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Is He a Player (Or Is She)?

Is he a player? Or are you wondering if the new woman in your life is stringing you along? The first question to ask yourself is how “available” they are to you. If you check their Facebook page, do you see just a basic profile without a lot of information? If you’ve sent them a friend request, did they accept it right away or are you still waiting? If you call this person, are they generally available or does it take forever for them to respond to you? If you’re with them and a text comes through, do they hide it from you? These are all signs that this person may be seeing someone else on the side. People who have nothing hide don’t give you that gut feeling that something isn’t right. If they aren’t being open and honest with you, you’ll often see it in their actions. Don’t ignore the red flags!

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What Men Wish Women Knew

Ever wonder what men wish women knew about them? One thing they would love is if women would just come out and tell them what they want when it comes to gifts for holidays or birthdays! Women are often disappointed when their gentleman doesn’t get them what they were hinting for, but with men you often have to be more overt with your wishes because they just don’t process subtle clues like women do. Give him a list of things to choose from so you are still surprised by which present you get. It’s not very romantic, but it’s better than getting the wrong thing or something you don’t want at all!

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New Year, New Relationships

We’ve reached the end of the holiday season and now is a great time to start thinking about your New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you are hoping to find new love and new relationships this coming year? If so, you can start off on a positive note by making some resolutions.

The first one we suggest is to just enjoy the ride. By this, we mean that you should resolve to focus on having fun during next year’s dates and let go of your expectations that “this person” could be your Prince or Princess Charming. After all, if you spend most of the date trying to picture a future together or wondering how he or she will fit in with your plans, you’ll miss the joy of meeting someone new and learning about them. By letting go and letting things happen without pushing them along, you’ll stop stressing and open yourself up to the happiness of the moment. Relaxing can be a gift to yourself and often is enough to allow relationship magic to happen.

That being said, searching for love any time of the year can be difficult. We can simplify the process with our elite matchmaking services! For more information, call Nancy and Barbara at 305-615-1900 or contact us today to learn more.

Dating During the Holidays: Meeting the Family

Are you in a new relationship and dating during the holidays? If you are going to be meeting his family or he’ll be joining yours for a seasonal gathering, do a little sleuthing ahead of time. Find out what will make a good impression with his relatives or be certain to tell him how best to get along with yours. Be sure he knows that your dad hates limp handshakes or that Cousin John always gets mad if anyone roots for the “other” team during the holiday football game. Conversely, ask him what to watch out for or what will endear you to his family. Little things can mean the difference between having a great time or a socially awkward day.

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Is He a Player?

Are you seeing someone new and starting to feel like you are being manipulated? It always seems like he’s making little “errors” when he talks to you – he forgets certain details or doesn’t ever really call you by name (it’s always “Honey” or some other pet name). Maybe she makes you feel like she wants a relationship, but when you try to take it to the next level, she backs off.  Does he flirt with almost every woman who walks by when you’re out or keep in touch with his ex? Does she say “maybe” when you talk about your next date or when you’ll hear from her again? These are not the signs of someone who is interested in a relationship – they are indicators of someone who is interested in “working” the romance to get the most out of it before moving on to greener pastures. To decide “is he a player?”, pay attention to the red flags!

Don’t settle for less than the best. With Elegant Introduction’s elite matchmaking services, we will find the most compatible match for you right from the start! For more information, visit Nancy and Barbara at Elegant Introductions at 305-615-1900 or contact us today.