When it comes to dating, trust yourself more and question yourself less
Questions. Life is full of them, and many of us were rightly taught to always ask questions. We’re encouraged to ask questions, both to fortify our minds, and to gain a better understanding of the world around us. These are always good questions: Do I want to have more children? Am I satisfied with my life? […]
Ask Nancy: How to handle dating a man with a small child
Introducing our new feature: Ask Nancy. Nancy Gold, co-founder of Elegant Introductions, is a psychologist who has been counseling individuals and couples for the past 25 years. We’ve invited readers and social media followers to submit dating and relationship questions to Nancy, and the response has been tremendous! Here, she will answer those questions, in […]
The Most Important Tip for Dating After Divorce
At Elegant Introductions, we see many singles thinking about dating after divorce. As this piece in the Huffington Post attests, there is one tip that is more important than anything else: know yourself. What your values are. What your goals are. What your relationship expectations are. If you don’t know all this, finding a soulmate […]
Ask Nancy: How to handle dating a man with an ill parent
Introducing our new feature: Ask Nancy. Nancy Gold, co-founder of Elegant Introductions, is a psychologist who has been counseling individuals and couples for the past 25 years. We’ve invited readers and social media followers to submit dating and relationship questions to Nancy, and the response has been tremendous! Here, she will answer those questions, in […]
What do you miss about old-school dating?
When we saw this post in the Huffington Post, we couldn’t help but laugh. It was very much a laugh of familiarity. As matchmakers, we hear this from clients all the time: dating certainly has changed, and it’s not what it used to be. But here’s a news flash: dating has never been easy. We […]
How one Jewish couple found the formula for successful relationships
Is there a scientific formula for long-lasting relationships? John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, a long-married couple (they’ve been wed for almost 30 years) who happen to be psychologists, think there is. Their findings, and how they came about them, are detailed in this fascinating article. Though the Gottmans’ work focuses on couples who are already […]
Want dating to get easier? Try the personal touch.
When we saw the headline, Dating in Miami Gets Easier, we were intrigued. After all, as elite matchmakers working with so many Miami singles, we want to know about this. So, we clicked on the link and–surprise, surprise–it’s another new phone dating app. This one’s called Clover. It’s so much better than Tinder, according to […]
After divorce or death of a spouse, how soon is too soon to start dating?
My husband died, but I’m thinking about dating. Is it too soon? I went through a very painful divorce, but I’m thinking about dating. Is it too soon? In my role as a matchmaker, I talk with many widows, widowers, and divorcees. Almost all of them ask the “is it too soon” question. The answer […]
What single women want their married friends to know
As a matchmaker, I have the privilege of getting to know many single women. I love hearing about their lives, their hopes, and their dreams for the future. That’s why I was fascinated by this Huffington Post article by Hélène Tragos Stelian, 8 Things Single Women Want Their Married Friends to Know. Hélène, who is […]
The most important voice to listen to when you’re dating
When you tell people you’re dating someone, a funny thing happens. You probably start getting lots of advice from your friends and family. Most times, this is a good thing: it comes from people who really care about you, and want your relationship to succeed. Still, there’s one voice that must rise above all the […]
When it comes to dating, make sure your requirements are realistic
The other day, I heard someone say something pretty profound when it comes to dating: “In order to get what you like, you have to give what you like.” In other words, if you envision your ideal man with certain specific requirements, you better make sure you already possess these requirements yourself. Chances are your […]
On dates, speak less — and learn more
When I meet with singles, they often tell me that they’re not sure what to say on a first date. I tell them there’s a proven solution for this—one that doesn’t involve a lot of talking. I tell them to take a deep breath, relax, and listen to their dates. Listening means learning, and the […]