Ask Nancy: Should I change my signature hairstyle to get more dates?
Introducing our new feature: Ask Nancy. Nancy Gold, co-founder of Elegant Introductions, is a psychologist who has been counseling individuals and couples for the past 25 years. We’ve invited readers and social media followers to submit dating and relationship questions to Nancy, and the response has been tremendous! Here, she will answer those questions, in […]
Ask Nancy: How to handle dating a man with a small child
Introducing our new feature: Ask Nancy. Nancy Gold, co-founder of Elegant Introductions, is a psychologist who has been counseling individuals and couples for the past 25 years. We’ve invited readers and social media followers to submit dating and relationship questions to Nancy, and the response has been tremendous! Here, she will answer those questions, in […]
The Most Important Tip for Dating After Divorce
At Elegant Introductions, we see many singles thinking about dating after divorce. As this piece in the Huffington Post attests, there is one tip that is more important than anything else: know yourself. What your values are. What your goals are. What your relationship expectations are. If you don’t know all this, finding a soulmate […]
Ask Nancy: How to handle dating a man with an ill parent
Introducing our new feature: Ask Nancy. Nancy Gold, co-founder of Elegant Introductions, is a psychologist who has been counseling individuals and couples for the past 25 years. We’ve invited readers and social media followers to submit dating and relationship questions to Nancy, and the response has been tremendous! Here, she will answer those questions, in […]
5 easy ways to relieve stress on a first date
First dates. If you’re like most people, you prepare for them with a mix of anticipation and fear. I know. Not only am I a matchmaker who calms the first-date nerves of many singles, but I’ve also been on more than a few first dates myself. The nerves are quite understandable. Any time you open […]
How one Jewish couple found the formula for successful relationships
Is there a scientific formula for long-lasting relationships? John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, a long-married couple (they’ve been wed for almost 30 years) who happen to be psychologists, think there is. Their findings, and how they came about them, are detailed in this fascinating article. Though the Gottmans’ work focuses on couples who are already […]
The most important thing about dating as a single parent
For so many people, just the thought of dating can bring on anxiety. But if you’re a single parent, there are so many other questions going through your mind. As a matchmaker, I hear them all the time from clients who want to date, but who are, first and foremost, parents concerned about how their […]
After divorce or death of a spouse, how soon is too soon to start dating?
My husband died, but I’m thinking about dating. Is it too soon? I went through a very painful divorce, but I’m thinking about dating. Is it too soon? In my role as a matchmaker, I talk with many widows, widowers, and divorcees. Almost all of them ask the “is it too soon” question. The answer […]
The most important voice to listen to when you’re dating
When you tell people you’re dating someone, a funny thing happens. You probably start getting lots of advice from your friends and family. Most times, this is a good thing: it comes from people who really care about you, and want your relationship to succeed. Still, there’s one voice that must rise above all the […]
When it comes to dating, make sure your requirements are realistic
The other day, I heard someone say something pretty profound when it comes to dating: “In order to get what you like, you have to give what you like.” In other words, if you envision your ideal man with certain specific requirements, you better make sure you already possess these requirements yourself. Chances are your […]
On dates, speak less — and learn more
When I meet with singles, they often tell me that they’re not sure what to say on a first date. I tell them there’s a proven solution for this—one that doesn’t involve a lot of talking. I tell them to take a deep breath, relax, and listen to their dates. Listening means learning, and the […]
Are you relationship-ready?
As matchmakers, we love connecting singles and making successful matches. Everyone who comes to us wants to be in a long-lasting relationship. We help them find out if they’re ready for such a relationship. In relationships—as in life—there’s a difference between wanting something and being able to handle that something. You’ve heard it before, but […]