We all have had a “list” in our minds of what our ideal relationship would look like, but at a certain point in time, we need to dust that list off and check it over to see if the qualities we are looking for are still serving us well. This is especially true if you haven’t reassessed them in a while, because our needs change as we grow and mature.
If you are not willing to date someone unless they drive a certain type of car, aren’t the right height, or don’t make a certain amount of money, you might be a little unrealistic about your relationship expectations. While it’s OK to have ideas of what you want in a romantic partner, holding your dates to a “checklist” and being overly stringent with your requirements is going to set you up for disappointment in the long run.
Learn to distinguish between wants and needs: you need to be loved, understood, and appreciated by your romantic partner, however you don’t need to date someone who drives a Ferrari (even if that would be a nice “extra”). By managing your relationship expectations, you’ll free yourself from getting caught up in frustration and distress.
At Elegant Introductions, we take the time to get to know you and find out what you need and want in a relationship before we match you with anyone. To learn more about Elegant Introductions, call Barbara and Nancy today at 305-615-1900 or contact us for more information.
