What do you miss about old-school dating?
When we saw this post in the Huffington Post, we couldn’t help but laugh. It was very much a laugh of familiarity. As matchmakers, we hear this from clients all the time: dating certainly has changed, and it’s not what it used to be. But here’s a news flash: dating has never been easy. We […]
If this mom can manage dating as a single parent, so can you
When it comes to dating, every single parent has questions and issues that go way beyond “will he like me,” or “are we a good match.” Take author Michele Weldon, for example. First, she had to flee an abusive relationship. Then, her ex pretty much abandoned her three sons, leaving all parenting responsibilities to her. […]
Want dating to get easier? Try the personal touch.
When we saw the headline, Dating in Miami Gets Easier, we were intrigued. After all, as elite matchmakers working with so many Miami singles, we want to know about this. So, we clicked on the link and–surprise, surprise–it’s another new phone dating app. This one’s called Clover. It’s so much better than Tinder, according to […]
The most important thing about dating as a single parent
For so many people, just the thought of dating can bring on anxiety. But if you’re a single parent, there are so many other questions going through your mind. As a matchmaker, I hear them all the time from clients who want to date, but who are, first and foremost, parents concerned about how their […]
After divorce or death of a spouse, how soon is too soon to start dating?
My husband died, but I’m thinking about dating. Is it too soon? I went through a very painful divorce, but I’m thinking about dating. Is it too soon? In my role as a matchmaker, I talk with many widows, widowers, and divorcees. Almost all of them ask the “is it too soon” question. The answer […]
What single women want their married friends to know
As a matchmaker, I have the privilege of getting to know many single women. I love hearing about their lives, their hopes, and their dreams for the future. That’s why I was fascinated by this Huffington Post article by Hélène Tragos Stelian, 8 Things Single Women Want Their Married Friends to Know. Hélène, who is […]
The most important voice to listen to when you’re dating
When you tell people you’re dating someone, a funny thing happens. You probably start getting lots of advice from your friends and family. Most times, this is a good thing: it comes from people who really care about you, and want your relationship to succeed. Still, there’s one voice that must rise above all the […]
When it comes to dating, make sure your requirements are realistic
The other day, I heard someone say something pretty profound when it comes to dating: “In order to get what you like, you have to give what you like.” In other words, if you envision your ideal man with certain specific requirements, you better make sure you already possess these requirements yourself. Chances are your […]
On dates, speak less — and learn more
When I meet with singles, they often tell me that they’re not sure what to say on a first date. I tell them there’s a proven solution for this—one that doesn’t involve a lot of talking. I tell them to take a deep breath, relax, and listen to their dates. Listening means learning, and the […]
Are you relationship-ready?
As matchmakers, we love connecting singles and making successful matches. Everyone who comes to us wants to be in a long-lasting relationship. We help them find out if they’re ready for such a relationship. In relationships—as in life—there’s a difference between wanting something and being able to handle that something. You’ve heard it before, but […]
Dating and kids: When should your kids meet your new love?
Here’s a question I often get from divorcees or widows with kids at home: I’m seeing this wonderful man. I think he might be the one. But when should I introduce him to my kids? This is always a potential minefield. Unfortunately, there’s no easy universal answer. It depends on many factors: How old are […]
Why texting and dates don’t mix
Picture this. You’re on a date. You’re deep in conversation with this guy and you feel you’re really connecting. Your eyes lock with his. Suddenly, your date looks down—at his phone. He just got a text, and he’s GOT to respond RIGHT AWAY. You say it’s okay to be polite. But honestly, aren’t you at […]