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Ask Nancy: How to handle dating a man with a small child

Introducing our new feature: Ask Nancy.

Nancy Gold, co-founder of Elegant Introductions, is a psychologist who has been counseling individuals and couples for the past 25 years. We’ve invited readers and social media followers to submit dating and relationship questions to Nancy, and the response has been tremendous! Here, she will answer those questions, in the hope of helping singles navigate today’s complex dating scene.

Dear Nancy,

I’m dating a man who has a small child with joint custody and no child care. Because his ex-wife works evenings, he assumes the responsibility for child care including bathing, feeding etc. This results in his being unavailable in the evenings unless he brings his son along. I really like this guy but how do we move forward? – Ellen K.

Dear Ellen,

He sounds like a very caring, attentive father, and even if he brings his son along on dates, it shows that he’s at least trying to find a way make things work between the two of you. Is there any chance to have an honest conversation with him? Most important: he shouldn’t feel pressure, but he should realize himself if he wants to move forward in a relationship he will need to make some private time. Good luck to the both of you.

Got a dating or relationship question? Just send it to social@jelegantintroductions.com and put Ask Nancy in the subject line. Be sure to include your full name and email address. (This is for verification only. To protect your privacy, we only use first names and initials online.) Nancy will be glad to answer as many dating or relationship questions as possible.

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