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Food for thought – or what to look for on that first restaurant date

dining photoLet’s say you’ve met someone, and there’s a definite mutual attraction. Where do you go on that first date? Chances are, it’s a restaurant.

There are plenty of good reasons for this. There’s the food, of course. Hopefully, it’s delicious, but aside from that, it serves another purpose: it takes some of the pressure off both of you, because the focus isn’t entirely on the both of you. Automatically, it gives you something to talk about. Plus, no matter how busy we are, we all have to eat. Even if the date doesn’t go well, your time’s not completely wasted.

At part of our dating services, we always follow up personally with our clients after dates. That’s when we hear lots of restaurant stories. You can tell a lot about a person by how they act in a restaurant. So, aside from the obvious points about good conversation and physical attraction, here are some other things to look for.

How your date treats the wait staff

Was she kind and considerate? Was he too kind (like not wanting to “make a fuss” if the food’s not right)? Was she just plain rude? However your date treats the wait staff, chances are he treats others that way, too. This can be a good sign—or a warning sign.

How your date feels about sharing

Some people are very territorial when it comes to their food, and just the thought of someone tasting their order turns them off. This can be more of a personal tick than a bad sign, but it’s something worth noticing. On the other hand, if you both feel comfortable ordering and sharing different dishes, that’s a good indication of your willingness to try new things together. It can also be very romantic.

How your date eats—and drinks

It’s a given that if your date goes too heavy on the alcohol, things probably won’t turn out well. But notice how he eats, too. Admittedly, this makes lots of singles self-conscious on early dates, but that’s a good thing. It shows that they care about making a good impression. Say your date accidentally spills something she’s eating. Does she clean it up quickly and effortlessly? That’s a sign that she can roll with the punches. On the other hand, if he suddenly freaks out and thinks only about his suit stain, that can be a big red flag.

All this noticing can be a little overwhelming. That’s perfectly normal. Above all, it’s important to take deep breaths, and enjoy the experience.

And by the way, we at Elegant Introductions know great restaurants as well as we know sophisticated singles. That’s why, when you meet with us, we’ll even throw in restaurant recommendations if you need them. Just like you, we want that first date to sizzle—and not just the food.

If you’re looking to connect with other sophisticated singles, we’re here to help. To learn more about Elegant Introductions, call Barbara and Nancy today at 305-615-1900 or contact us for more information.



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