As a Jewish matchmaker, I have the privilege of getting to know many single women. I love hearing about their lives, their hopes, and their dreams for the future.
That’s why I was fascinated by this Huffington Post article by Hélène Tragos Stelian, 8 Things Single Women Want Their Married Friends to Know. Hélène, who is married, talked to many of her single girlfriends who are 50+, and asked them what it’s like to be single at this age: the ups, the downs, and in particular, the misconceptions that many of their married friends and family have about them.
Not surprisingly, there are many misconceptions. Of course, as a matchmaker, I was particularly attracted to Number 4 on this list: Just because I’m single and 50 doesn’t mean I’m desperate and will date anyone. Boy, do I hear about this from my clients, regardless of their age or their gender!
According to the article, most women don’t mind being set up by their friends. But they do mind it when the bar is set very low. Too often, their friend’s only criteria for romantic bliss is that the guy is also single. That’s it. So what if he doesn’t have social skills? Or if he isn’t very bright? One woman interviewed here says her friend actually told her to “dumb her herself down” so that she wouldn’t “scare off” the guy with her intellect!
Stories like this are a big reason why, if you’re single, Jewish and serious about wanting a relationship, it’s often more effective to come to us at Elegant Introductions than it is to rely on your friends. For one thing, we pride ourselves with setting the bar high for our clients. Our criteria runs much deeper than just being single. To us, a person’s goals, accomplishments, values, and their willingness to commit to a long-lasting relationship, matter just as much. All our clients are great “catches.”
Also, we would never tell you to “dumb yourself down” for your date. It’s our job to find just the right match for you. We do everything we can to make sure that you are comfortable being yourself on your dates. We also follow up with you after your date. We do this not only to find out how things went, but also to guide you and help you focus on your relationship goals. Above all, we celebrate you for who you already are—a Jewish single, successful in your life and in your community, who wants to share your life with another Jewish single whose goals and values match yours. To find out more, just contact us. We will arrange a convenient time for a face-to-face meeting, where we can get to know you and show you what we can do for you.
To read the entire list of what single women want their married friends to know, click here. If you’re single, you’ll probably relate to at least some of these — if not all of these.